I hear all the time from people that there are things that can never be forgiven. If someone has wronged you in some way, are you the type that easily forgives or never does?

I believe there is some confusion with forgiveness and with condoning the actions of another. They are not the same, yet are often never separated which makes it near impossible for someone to forgive if they believe that it also means agreeing or condoning what was done.

It is impossible to love yourself if you refuse to forgive, because you continue to carry around with you in your mind the actions of another person that you are not in harmony with. The very essence of not forgiving is resentment which in turn creates tension and dis-ease in your body and a barrier for love – from yourself and others.

What if forgiveness was just about release and not about another person’s actions? By separating this out we can allow ourselves to let go and be free of the harmful tension in our bodies that could develop into a serious ill-health issue if we continue to feed it.

What if forgiveness was allowing ourselves to be exonerated from any blame or guilt for those actions.

However people fight to cling on to their right not to forgive not knowing that it is only themselves they harm – the person that is not being forgiven rarely cares.

With love and gratitude

Nadine.