Do you have a story? I will take a guess and say that you do.

A story of your life that people get to know after meeting you. It’s the story we tell people about ourselves and our life, what’s happened to us and why we live the way we do right now. What our values and passions are and what we desire.

There are many things we could talk about when telling others about ourselves. Take a moment to think right now that if I was to ask you about you, what would you instinctively tell me?

Without us realising it, this story defines us. Now when I say ‘story’ I don’t mean the fairy tale made up kind, I simply mean the story of our life. Is it a tale of woe, a tale of eventful happenings, an inspiration to others perhaps or does it have it all?

The story we repeat to others when they ask (or not) and the story that continues to play out in our mind is defining who we are and the simple act of focussing on it puts it on a continuous repeat pattern, and this is influencing our future more than you may know.

The reason I chose to blog about this today is because it is the day of the funeral of Margaret Thatcher and over the past week or so since her death I have been hearing people’s stories over and over about what she ‘did to them’.

I am not getting political here or making any comments about her policies, I am pointing out that all I am hearing is people’s stories of what they believe she ‘did to’ them. Yes she made a lot of decisions that had a huge influence over our lives, however what we choose to make of what life throws at us is our responsibility entirely. It seems however that many in our society would prefer to put the blame for their story, even today, onto someone else.

I realise I am going into delicate territory here, but please hear me out as I believe it will help you understand something about your life.

We either choose to take responsibility for our life and what has happened so far, or we can blame others and justify why we are where we are. Which is the most empowering for you do you think? Which puts you in control of your life to make it what you desire and which puts you at the mercy of your past?

All the anger and blame I am hearing on the radio and on TV is not empowering those people to move on. Instead they are choosing to be trapped by their beliefs that they have no power over their situation now. I do understand how others decisions and actions can have a huge impact on someone’s life and if in a negative way that anger can last a long time. However I feel it has got to the point of becoming such a story now of blame that they are trapped by it and cannot see how by accepting what is, taking responsibility for life as it is now, they can actually move on and start another chapter.

The law of attraction states clearly that we get what we focus on the most. What we think about the most we will attract more of into our lives. If we are thinking hatred and blame we will see all the opportunities to get more of that low energy stuff and life becomes a self- fulfilling prophecy. If we chose to be thankful for our story and appreciate it for getting us here, and take responsibility for who we are, what decisions we have made in our lives regardless of what the circumstances and challenges have been, we set ourselves free.

At any point we can ‘let go’ and choose a future that is not based on our past and isn’t just another repeat of the same story we perpetuate by keeping it alive in our minds and when we tell others about ourselves.

Mother Theresa once famously said that she would never attend a war rally. She was against war but fully understood that by rallying against it she would give more focus and energy into something she didn’t agree with or want. Instead she said if you ask me to attend a peace rally then I will be there. She understood that what you focus on the most you attract into your future, and that works on an individual level and as a society too.

I feel that philosophy could set a lot of people free from their own wars and battles they have with others and with their own life. All the negative energy from people that has been pouring out over the past few weeks can only serve to perpetuate more anger, hatred and negative circumstances into these people’s lives. I understand they feel hurt. But if they took responsibility for their life as it is today and empower themselves to make it better, they could have a very different future than the one being written for them in their minds right now. Justifying it and blaming it on Margaret Thatcher does not help and it does not serve anyone anymore. It’s like taking poison and expecting someone else to be ill.

So, tell me about yourself?

With love and gratitude

Nadine.